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Pump Up Love

June 29, 2010
Increasing love in one is simple! Truth be known, few people either almost never feel love, or don’t know how to call it up to feel it. Nourishing ones appetites through self serving sex, feel good acquisitions, alcohol and substance abuse, are never more than a ‘bandaid’ that has little or nothing to do with love. Ignoring the natural, healthy ways to create and bolster self love can never unleash the love all have within. It seems that the majority in America are now medicated unnecessarily even if it’s on ‘sleeping pills! Medications, whether they be psychological beliefs, or physical, stunt all natural growth of love. Even being with those who are handicapping themselves with love deterrents have effects on the innocent like 2nd hand smoke does!

Love often hides from all abuses when not given positive encouragement. It’s not uncommon to go about everyday living, thinking little about love missing in one’s life while reaching for placebos of pseudo love wherever available as one strokes the imagination to fill the void of the real thing. There is no quick ‘aspirin cure’ for avoiding love, and assuming brief moments of joy among the dark clouds is a solution to cure it’s lack, is dreaming.

To ‘pump up love’, be in the moment. The past and the future are in the imagination, and most often a barrier to feeling the love of the moment. Let go of all but the moment, but stay relaxed while being aware of the now. There must be moments in ones day where all is forgotten and an aura of inner emptiness is allowed to fill ones being. That emptiness heals as it refreshes and ultimately can become ones very essence. Meditation or the giving from the heart activates the feeling of love.

Breathing with awareness into a relaxed state energizes love from within. Whether alone or in the loving embrace of another, the invisible energy of love silently fills whatever void there might be. No drug or outside force is as natural and lasting as the ‘breath of love’ that is available to anyone. That inner bliss with awareness in the moment, opens the senses to all positive views and experiences of life. Like an outfielder in baseball running to catch a high hit ball, nothing is on the mind but the moment.

Love is in the air, it is the air, slowly breathed in with awareness, creating an alertness of the moment. Ones being in ‘wholeness’ is being in love of self. In your wholeness you are perfect, and a deep contentment comes. It becomes a climate around you.
Arhata

Fixing Love’s Chaos

June 28, 2010
Who’s the problem? Is it you? Is it both you and your partner? In a few cases it’s not you, and it’s a good idea to know that!  If there is a ‘lower’ in self love, they usually control the quality of the relationship. It’s easy to get lost in the quagmire of everyday life as to what came first, the chicken or the egg? Whether you are the problem, the other is, or both, it’s imperative to find out in order to ‘fix love’. Obstructions to love are ‘love’s poisons that cloud all possibility of ever experiencing full love.

Up to this point, I’ve experienced for myself ‘the why’s, how’s, what’s, and when’s’ in relationships, and methods to use them to expand consciousness, self love, love compatibility, and educating myself in techniques to pass on for others to do the same. Problems lie in being off ‘love’s track’ and getting lost in a jungle of hopelessness that becomes a ‘rut’ of never ending turmoil mixed with brief moments of hope, and then back to hopelessness.

Having experienced many, many relationships from ‘average to extraordinary’, I can unequivocally state that both partner’s high self love is a major key to blissful, consistent love. I have experienced going from a love relationship where the other had ‘difficulties and unresolved issues’ to one that virtually had none of those with the result being going from an average relationship to one that was as perfect as one could only imagine. Why? The answer lies in one being in consciousness and self love with another who is also. A top pitcher in baseball with a struggling catcher, degrades the pitcher.

‘Finger pointers’ who instigate the problems are a block to growing love except for learning lessons on what and perhaps who to avoid!  Life is really short with few ‘high conscious quality’ partner options for love sharing. Extreme discernment of consciousness in picking a partner, and being able to present the best you, is critical to a high quality love life. Having both agreeing to agree on taking responsibility for less than desirable behaviors, without negative consequences, is building compassion and deeper love!
Arhata