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Cellebrate Positivity!

May 24, 2010
Breakout of the old cells that are holding back positivity. Nothing changes without you moving in a new direction and letting go of ‘blocks’! Here’s a 6 minute meditation that is a breakout from old gnarly negatives: Sit, stand, or lie down comfortably. Ten times breath in and out (maybe extend each of fingers to keep count of a full ‘in and out breath’). Three breathing steps plus ‘new input’ to replace the old.

Step one (do this for a trial before adding input – optional) -close your eyes, take a deep, deep slow breath (mouth closed throughout) expanding the chest while bringing in ‘all’ the air from the belly until there is no more air left. Then STOP! Hold the breath! Hold it for as long as you can ….and longer! Remember when you were a kid, and you’d hold your breath to see if you could die? You didn’t, and won’t! When it’s no longer possible to hold the breath, slowly let it go. Completely breath out totally emptying it. Then STOP and hold it for as long as possible. Repeat the cycle perhaps ten times.

Now do it, and add an ‘input reprogramming injection’ of a life changing behavior mantra. That behavior could be ‘laughing more; being more aware; releasing negativity; opening the heart, quitting smoking, and on an on. Start by using one idea, ‘positivity and becoming more positive in your life’. Using the word ‘positive’, be flexibly creative, and silently say something like this all during the ‘mantra meditation’: ‘I’m becoming more and more positive, I am positive, I’m moving into positivity, becoming more and more positive, feeling positive, being positive  – on and on. Not necessarily repeating exactly in that order but keeping the focus on the feeling or issue you want to address.

Start the practice for a week, and longer if it feels right, once or more per day. Meditation should be fun! After doing this remain relaxed lying or sitting down with eyes closed and just watching whatever comes up. Let an inner smile come up!

As time goes on, do the technique with different words and images such as those mentioned, or ‘be happy’, or moving into deeper and deeper love, etc. Prayer is ‘affirmation of the positive’. Think of it as a prayer/meditation! Enjoy!

Arhata

Dirty Old Men & Lust

May 23, 2010

Dirty old men start as early as 12, and continue on past 100! In college, I worked for a guy in his 60’s at a Blacksmith shop, where his 88 year old father, and former owner, showed up daily. Old man Fossburg always dressed in a black suit with vest, black brimmed hat, and a gold watch chain hanging from his vest pocket. Fossburg frequently chomped on a cigar and could be found reading a playboy magazine. Several times per year he joked about his jaunts at one of the ‘local whore houses’ claiming it kept him young for his 80 year old wife!

Leering old men in the internet age are now often found in front of a ‘porno site’, only known to those who are a ‘fly on the wall’.  If married, they can often be found behind a locked door while viewing porno in private without the wife’s consensual knowledge. In year’s past, ‘playboy magazine’ and knockoffs were enough for private viewing but with advancing technology, they can now use a credit card for live ‘virtual reality’ action that should be called ‘cheating’ if a man is married in a life with ‘communication problems’. “Who knows what evil lies in the hearts of men’’? Certainly not most females!

Like boiling water that turns to steam, evolving sexuality rises into a deeper and deeper ability to love another that amounts to – ‘sex to superconsciousness’. Those, commonly, who don’t evolve their ‘sex drive’, often displace the energy into addictions and behaviors that ‘pervert’ healthy, wholesome living into actions that only tend to serve their greedy needs. Men who never evolve their sexuality beyond mostly fantasy, become dirty old men, even when it’s hidden and covered by infinite behaviors cloaking it.

Degenerative emotional behaviors are perversions, but always an opportunity to use the energy for the healthy evolvement of the self as well as humanity.  Energy always goes ‘somewhere’. It’s a ‘choice’ to direct it to love or to ‘fritter’ it away for self indulgences with no compassion for others beyond their usefulness as a ‘vehicle’ to garner more self serving pleasures. As the human individual spiritually evolves, inspiring others to do the same, the world will become a more enlightened place. Turn ‘unbridled sex’ into unbridled love!

Arhata

Business Marriage

Good Fairy
May 22, 2010
Love doesn’t happen from a ‘good fairy’! Love is not a ‘business deal!

Perhaps it took hold in the ’70’s during the flooding emancipation of the female in the work place?! Today this phenomenon of two incomes builds unheard of equity with a few million in the US. Love and ‘business marriages’ go together, well like these new ‘mega houses, Summer homes, and two or three Mercedes/BMW’s, Wall St investments and, like as ex girlfriend’s father, 50 houses that he rents out in Houston, Texas.

From what I’ve generally seen, these ‘partnerships’ are the new ‘love’ mirroring success. Use to be before the mid ‘70s, when women began pouring into the corporate world gradually with one college degree or another, that men would marry their secretaries and assistants. As the ’80’s came tens of thousands of the ‘new couples’ emerged into ‘merging’ with ‘mega incomes’ out of college, largely in the area of ‘finance’, attorneys, doctors, and so forth. To the average citizen, it wasn’t that visible, particularly in ‘middle America’. Now, it’s ‘significantly’ more visible!

The ‘merging of incomes’ has tended to make ‘marriage for acquisitions’ very appealing in achieving the American dream. The average American can only pass by these ‘mega homes’ by the hundreds of thousands, and commiserate over ‘why not me’!  A beautiful, gargantuan, expensive home does not represent a high level of love that occupies it. While living in Los Angeles for many years and having some association with the real estate market, while meeting thousands, I became particularly aware that mostly it was ‘image’. Often I saw couples who were keeping things together by ‘rubber bands, deception to each other, greed, frequent drug or alcohol addictions, cheating, and —-well, not what their beautiful homes would seem to indicate.

People having ‘the American Dream’ (which really means ‘living in a dream world’ or fantasy wishes) have discovered that ‘mega love and mega acquisitions’ don’t go together as pitched by the ‘dream sellers’, so they too can live in fancy boxes and travel 8 blocks to the store that can be walked to, biked to, or bused to.  Within 6 blocks of where I live, there are dozens of ‘dream mega homes’ with no one around them but the hired gardeners. Given a choice, (and having both is highly unlikely), between a ‘business marriage’ and the ‘freedom that real love brings’, well, choose …. very rarely do both choices get handed out! Be careful of meditating though, meditators loose interest in ‘sellers dreams’ instead living in self love and giving to others without needing a tax write off! It’s called, living the dream of love, and building mansions within!
Arhata

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No Communicate/NO Love

May 21, 2010
Houston …We have a problem! You are not a ‘restricted area’, nor is the other! The mind and heart are there for a reason – ‘believe it or not’! They are part of you to communicate fully, and uninhibitedly, both with yourself and with another, or there is NO possibility of any quantifiable love arising!   Everyone is someone else unless communication happens, and the acceptance of the possibility of both your inner growth or change, and theirs. Without unbridled communication one cannot really know the other let alone oneself.

Love needs ‘freedom’. The ‘freedom’ of expression, communication, and acceptance of who one and the other is. Silence is golden, but not in the face of closing fences that keep thoughts and feelings making one into a sheep where the ‘wolves of omissions of communications’ are left to spoil love that so needs the freshness of complete attention. Get to know who you come close to in love as soon as possible before getting involved deeper.  If communication is bad, it becomes more difficult to remove oneself.  Everyone is the same beautiful person inside, but lives are often lived on the surface burying the ‘opening’ so much that, baring an extreme make over, one will never find out who they are really with, ever.

Be rich in every aspect of oneself by keeping open to all that which engenders the free flowing of thoughts and feelings. Have no fears, with eyes, mind and heart wide open while being receptive to knowing the other as oneself. Each is the other, but for circumstances that have given each a uniqueness which makes life dynamic and interesting.  Always know that beneath the exterior, is an individual like you, filled with the same capacity of love to be nurtured and to give nurturing to another.

The average person lives behind closed bars that only reveal glimpses of who they are. Once someone knows who they really are, the secret of seeing that we are all the same but for ‘denial of that’, opens one to hidden mysteries of life that were always there but for the willingness to see. The clash of the divisions between suppression of knowledge and information versus openness to the facts and truth must be bridged for positive growth. That clash happens in the world with religions, politics, and corporations controlling what can be heard by everyone, leading all the way to those involved to each other with ‘selected  communication’. Let go, and be open to communicating with the energy of the heart! Arhata

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WHY am I Here?

May 20, 2010
Perhaps you are here to ask why you are here, and then forget about it and get on with life one step at a time (called‘incrementalism’). In reality, nobody knows why they are here! There is no way to know it, and it doesn’t really matter. Now, if you don’t mind, it don’t matter! The ‘why’ is non ending, and if not let go of, becomes a disease of the mind. The ‘why’ is a ridiculous pursuit much like ‘who created the world? And again, ‘why’?

Rather then lament over ‘why you are here’ focus on ‘since I’m here, how can I make the best of my life and then give back to others struggling to get their ‘head above water’. It is better to look at it as an opportunity to flower and experience all the inner growth possible. Start enjoying life to the fullest and the thoughts of ‘why’ will disappear.  The question is of the intellect, the answer is in the experiencing or existential. Those living a positive, enjoyable life are not concerned with stupid, mind, unanswerable questions.

A good use of time is always a virtue, so why waste the short time on earth ‘postulating what a god couldn’t even have an answer for?  The sad state of most on earth is to be too busy, in their own mind, to seek natures fruits within, instead opting to ‘window shop’ and then spend the rest of precious time talking with other window shoppers about your opinions. ‘Window shopping’ done in moderation is fine, but obsessing over watching sports, movies and whatever is something a dog could do but will elect not to.

As soon as one decides that God created the world, then the question arises ‘who created god’, and on and on. Paradoxically, when you stop the questioning, the answer comes! Go on questioning and the answer becomes more and more elusive.  The real, and only ‘why question’ is ‘who am I’?  That can be answered by digging deep inside for love of self for the answer with no words.  You can feel who you are!  All questions of ‘why’ with no answers will disappear as the enjoyment of life and love become existential! Who are you, not ‘who do you think you are, keeps one from maybe going ‘crazy’!

Instead of ‘Why’s, focus instead on ‘how’! How do I love myself more, and how do I experience love completely with another? That will keep you busy ‘productively’, and for the betterment of all concerned, even in the world. Godliness at work!

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Angry Males

May 16, 2010
All over the animal world, there are angry males.  Males who’ve been abused transfer to  others without compassion. The world suffers from turmoil because of male hatred and ignorance. There are two forces that have usurped the world and hopefully with be met by a balance of male and female energy. Those two ugly forces are politics and religion, led by male domination and control to satisfy immature ego needs.  Someone once said, “men are hunks of flesh hanging from a dick’. I would add, ‘with a wallet’. The negative has a major spoiling effect on the positive.

Doing ‘free speech’ before millions for over 15 years, I can attest to the fact that females are as negative as males but usually less apt to express physical violence. This ‘female anger’ is good, as with any male, when it comes from the conscious heart and is not directed at physical abuse. Anger is a good form of release when done with consciousness to clear the moment, or of suppressed emotions. Always anger with compassion for others coupled with a sense of humor, even if a bit hidden from view can be positive.

Anger like most things, is a double edged sword. A knife can be used for utilitarian purposes or for destructive means. Anger can be like a squeaking wheel that needs grease for attention to move smoothly. Anger is often the mind crying out for more balance of loving energy to eliminate ‘self hatred and anger’. Soothing words likely are not enough to quell what has become a rusty wheel.  Love is not always easily accessible to the ‘angry person’ and some form of technique is necessary to change the vibration of unconscious discomfort. That technique may range from running to laughter to anything that quiets the mind and opens the balanced heart.

Even an ‘anger meditation’ where one is allowed to cathart stored negative emotions by screaming for minutes or yelling ‘insanities’ in the air can wear out the tensions followed by silent moments with eyes closed of just witnessing whatever comes up on the minds movie screen. Installing a new sense of being is a new beginning that if repeated enough over time will begin to change one’s inner culture to a greater state of clarity and bliss. Rising to a new level of experience within may be ‘angers opportunity’ doorway to see who you really are! It’s not too late to ‘reboot’ positivity!

Arhata

Defense is ‘Offense’!
May 19, 2010
Wham – Bam, it’s time to awaken from a slumber! A drunk will usually defend his state as ‘I’m not drunk’!  A breathalyzer will determine ones ‘drunken state’ regardless of the denial of ego.  To be drunk is to be in an unconscious state of unawareness of the truth and responsibility for it, electing instead to take the offense as a defense for an ‘offence of consciousness’. To be in denial of truth is a ‘state of drunkenness’ that is self perpetuating. Bad habits that one won’t acknowledge whether it be something simple like being a poor communicator with openness, a ‘parrot of religious scripture’, or just a person of offensive habits that does’t consider the effect on others, it’s still a type of ‘drunkenness’.

There are no ‘breathalyzers’ for behaviors that one doesn’t take responsibility for except either ones acceptance and correction of them, or hearing someones pointing them out.  People’s general behavior on a personal level is rarely one that doesn’t need observation and change for harmony, or collaboration with another. One bad habit usually has a family of many other bad habits that are addicted to.  Insensitivity to see and correct any ‘rouge’ behavior, or to even refuse to see anything as offensive to another is to clearly display an ‘offense to consciousness and self love’.

An offense to defend an ‘offence’ to someone else is a sign of early Alzheimer’s or a loss of hearing that stores a memory which can access itself for a new replacement habit! I’ve witnessed innumerable people who I’ve known for years, (in the family, for a life time), who relentlessly repeat strange behaviors and thinking that they refuse to drop even though the ‘birds in the trees see the advantages!

I have one delightful friend who periodically invites me to tell him what he doesn’t know or needs to know about himself to exhibit more consciousness – a real breath of fresh air and makes me wonder why there are so many who cling to manifestations that serve no evolution of daily living, or spiritual growth. Spiritual growth means an openness to accept new and better ways to rise into a higher and higher consciousness. Can’t stand a little noise, smells, sights, or even bad habits of others? Might just be a personal ‘bad habit’ that needs to ‘reboot itself’ for a sense of humor that we all have but forget to use!
Arhata

Communication Whacked


May 17, 2010
Seeing in the dark is for some like communicating through the darkness of fears, ignorance and ego. Few can communicate about themselves. Communicating about ‘things’ is a lower level of communication compared to being open about life, love and oneself. It’s not uncommon to find people who ‘loop or can only repeat’ information that is about the outside world with nothing more. A deep communion with oneself is necessary to be able to relate to another on a meaningful level.

Ambition, success, or any attachment to all worldly endeavors or things without loving oneself, is to only exist as a body occupied by a shallow mind.  The ‘outer’ will never meet an inner that lives on the surface. Experiences unexamined are like ‘window shopping through life’. ‘One way’ talk without the sensitivity to know that the other is participating voluntarily is a habit of those who like to use others to hear themselves while assuming the other wants to hear it. This type of ‘chatterbox’ is full of himself with ignorance, fear and a complete lack of ‘communication skills’.

Communication flows when two meet interdependently for the success of an opportunity to have a dialog. One way talk is an affront to the listener who likely is too polite to correct the uncomfortable situation for concern of hurting the others feelings.  With exceptions, I let everyone know that I communicate with the intent of it being on a spiritual or conscious level (joking aside). Two need to be open to a spoken or non spoken agreement to the terms of ‘communication’. Putting unresolved head/emotional junk on another’s plate without ‘owning it to the other’ is to be a ‘molester of conversation and communication’.

I’ve never met another who wouldn’t like to improve their inner being, but rarely one who is serious about communication and dialog on the subject ‘without walls’ of fear and a complete openness. The ‘masks of fear’ are everywhere to hide the real truths even from oneself. Masks attempting to communicate with other masks is to avoid meeting more than the mask. It’s exciting to see what mysteries and wonderments hide inside to evoke infinite love. With awareness and openness, communication blossoms.
Arhata