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Commotion Emotion

February 26, 2010
Drop all discipline and, be in awareness, with discernment, of what you are doing! It’s what ultimately works best that counts most.  This is not to suggest being a ‘drama queen or, king’!  Nor is it to suggest being a ‘controller of emotions’ in every aspect of one’s life. To be emotional at times is healthy as is controlling emotions and, using common sense at times.  It’s balance, like walking a tight rope between two buildings with a ‘balancing pole’.  With experience and, evolving wisdom, one finds what ways create best balance.

Many, many people, male and, particularly female, are like ‘yo-yo’s’ inside moving from this emotion to that one with no balance or insight in how to convert negative emotion into an energy that works for a good healthy experience.  A guest here at the center took her dog of many years to an Animal Shelter yesterday for adoption to a new home as she found her busy schedule not conducive to making the dog happiest.  Her view this morning was that she had to keep busy to not think about it.

I suggested she be happy for the dog who will make someone very happy and, she is also creating good karma through giving something she loved to make another happy, including the dog, who will adjust.  Years ago, when my mother left ‘this plane’ in her late 40’s, my youngest brother (of 6) was extraordinarily upset. I, on the other hand, just arriving from New York to the West, was in a sensitive but cheery mood which further upset my younger brother.  I knew from an early age, that mom had told me she would not be with us very long.  I understood that, and decided to keep an ‘up tone’ at the ‘celebration of her life’ and, spend the rest of my days, thinking and feeling her presence from time to time. No commotion but, lots of loving emotion will always continue as well as, small miracles that seem attributed to her in some way unexplained.

Commotion stirs up the mind and heart from it’s serene centering where blessings come in like the gentle waves of the ocean on a calm day.  It’s important that we don’t hold back emotions in many circumstances particularly positive one that need be let go totally with a partner. Deep love is best to ride on an emotional trackless track to even deeper emotion and love. Holding back is about fear.  Fear of letting go and exposing everything that comes up. Always go all out, even sometimes in anger, but being the watcher!  Empty the mind and the heart with totalness while watching.
Arhata

February 25, 2010
Mothers are Guru’s to the newborn. Good ones, great ones, or troubled ones but, guru’s of love for the innocent child never the less.  I was raised by a ‘single, teenage, high school dropout mother’ the first two years. She was from the same town where they filmed ‘The Officer & Gentleman’ starring Richard Gere (ironically across the street from where my center is now). Dad was a Naval Officer similar to that in the movie filmed here and, was away those first 2 years. ‘Guru love’ has nothing to do with status or education.

Later when kids become adults, the effects become apparent. Never does one need to stay ‘molded’ to some dysfunctional love from a parent but, few seem to be open to rising above the unclaimed issues that become hardwired if not ‘unattached’ from. Unrepaired love moves through infinite generations of beleaguered souls.  Male and female are blinded from knowing real love but settle for some form of ‘functional’ love to struggle through life’s consequent turmoils.  Busyness with outer endeavors for survival, children and, all kinds of commitments, pile up to bury any attention to one’s personal evolvement.

When two people merge with ‘unfixed’ issues, love will never reach an ‘unconditional’ state without a mutual focus of seeing and acting through and beyond the fixed issues.  Each person is ‘perfect’ as much as a human can be but, they either can’t see that or, circumstances may cloud the perfection. If one partner truly loves themselves, they can see the others struggle but, can also see them in their perfection.  The ‘struggling partner’ must be willing to cooperate in the relationship to reach for higher love at all points.  Both partners are always equal in love but rarely do two people acknowledge that.  There is no higher and lower, only some kind of ‘darkness’ where the light doesn’t shine to see the truth. It’s not about ‘changing one’ but, uncovering the attached to falseness.

At this stage of life, the female can rarely elevate a male in lower ‘self love’ to a higher place that she is in.  It’s very important for a female seeking a ‘real, unconditional love affair’ to find a male who is in that place already and, be open to uncover obstacles.  With few exceptions, females rise in a coupling, males slip with other interests followed by the female then stopping her full expressions of love. Love must be the ‘guru’ to meet and bond with.  A male already bonding with that may pull up his mate but, very unlikely the other way around. Females are good at receiving as long as the male is good at giving and, in a strong self love place.  Freedom in a coupling only happens in a space of unconditional mutual love. Arhata