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October 25, 2009
Brains by Harvard, self love by ‘illusion’! A cup or more of sugar per day may create the illusion that all is fine but, what one doesn’t care to know, can and will, hurt you. As children are told that ‘smoking stunts growth’, adults who want to experience the fullness of love, need to recognize that smoking anything, including purportedly ‘safe cigarettes’ stunts ‘love’s magnificence’. Observation and denial of that is clouded in smoke, with false deductions.

Past, present and future smokers on a path of ‘the importance of self love’ and, love of another that shines through time, need to go inside and find out why the aberrant, abnormal behavior persists beyond all conscious reasoning. The ‘ego’ spins the reasons why to smoke denying clear reasons for it’s ‘death kneel’. The brain functions well on some levels of activity but the heart coupled with the brain becomes crippled, even if the ‘human ashtray’ doesn’t see it.

There was a time when the young thought it to be ‘cool’ to have that James Dean ‘fag’ hanging from the mouth. Many of those ‘cool nincompoops’ who chose to keep the habit or change it for another bad one, are ill or, dead. Perhaps those who died have ‘reincarnated’ with the imprint to continue smoking – who knows! Beyond ‘ashtray people kissing other ashtray people’, anyone wanting a ‘walking ashtray’ in the home, has serious ‘self love’ problems.

Cigarettes or, anything smoked, even if it’s a few puffs throughout the day, is likely an addiction akin to a milder form of cocaine called ‘crack’. Smoking is punishable by an early death! That earlier death is preceded by ‘love’ being replaced with some semblance of ‘clouded twinkling’ of luv, assumed by delusion of biological reverberations, to be something to brag about to whomever is ‘dumbed down’ enough to lack the awareness to see through the smoke.

With more than 1/2 the population dumbed down by drugs (cigarettes are a drug) or, over medicated, it’s the ‘blind watching the blind’! The cure – go to jail – smokers quit real quick there or, just drop the habit DEAD! Worst case, try ‘meditations for smokers’!
If the smoke and, ‘why for’s’ clear the casing of you (called the body), it will be a slow realization that there is something, somewhere, a feeling …..in the air. One day, the answer will be ‘love is in the air’, not smoke! Yeah….Really! Oh… my gosh!!
Arhata

October 24, 2009
Everyone can heal and, be stronger more so than ever before in history. Not long ago, and certainly still in most of the world, emotional damage was a permanent blemish on which to continue through life. Drugs and over medication, seem to be the dark popular way in this country, creating frequent clouds and storms while inviting in the peddlers (demons) of instant temporary gratification.

The mind and heart, not fully developed to maturity and, self love, is very susceptible to situations that create the many manifestations of fear from ‘abandonment’ to death. Maturing is to grow to full possibilities of converting all situations that might occur into deeper compassion for others with similar happenings and, a deeper feeling of life’s meanings.

There is often no escape from emotionally trying happenings but, to let go of clinging to the negative shadows of memory that can follow one throughout life especially in personal situations. The common mistake is to sweep things under the rug while adding a greater and greater accumulation of these impediments to a blissful, harmonious living. At no time in existence, has life for many provided more and better answers to assist rising through and above that which often crippled one emotionally, mentally and spiritually for life if not shortening it. Receiving available help from the myriad of sources and, from that experience, helping others to heal is a means of further healing the self while doing one’s part in making it a better world.

Meditation techniques to create a harmony and peace within while letting go of attachments that serve to weigh one down, are much more available. Guidance in meditations is preferred to accompany them along with sound common sense thoughts of how to use the internal clearing to move away from former blockages. The best assistance is usually free with some compassionate form of reciprocity. The old methods of emotional healing which waned at the end of the 20th century still linger in a society which is slow to adjust. Awareness, love, and common sense are always friends looking for company for the asking! It’s a crime not to fix the self!
Arhata

October 23, 2009
Friend today … who knows what tomorrow? Likely the thought never occurs in the moment. Friends are ‘friendships’, ships passing in the night, in all likely hood. Ships are made to float and, sadly sometimes are friend-ships. Rarely are they void of the ‘enemy’ lurking behind the often enjoyable facade of being a ‘friend’. Sad, but anyone being less than a true friend who comes disguised as ‘fair weather’, must be enjoyed in the moment but with little expectations.

Friends who really mean well and, with little ‘baggage’ are the next best thing to a friend who is truly a friend to themselves. No real friend, even if they aren’t as close as one would like, will shut the door to future connections in this crazy moving world. Sometimes a ‘friend’ has a motive. A motive that they are not willing to share openly – that ‘one’ may be a ‘friend-enemy’ just passing through a small part of one’s life. Sometimes better to befriend an enemy who becomes a friend than the mirage of a friend who easily becomes, in some form or other, the antithesis of a friend.

The question should always arise ‘are you really a friend’ for the moment or, a lasting one that, as circumstances change, like moving away a long distance or, getting married, still remains true to the previous bond and good memories? A friend should always have value in the heart and, not relegated to a ‘commodity’ that’s essentially, disposable.

Friendliness is a form of godliness and should universally be expressed, at the very least, using some ‘measured form’ with sincerity (meaning, there are a minority who assume friendliness to be an unintended invitation to further the opening). Most people are strangers and, if given an opportunity, could become, through initial friendliness, friends beyond any anticipation. The best friend is ‘you’ finding the self love within that is with you during the good and, challenging times. But, ‘the enemy’, is also within most! The ‘mythical Jesus, said ‘love your enemies’ – and, if recognition of that enemy starts inside, make it a special friendship!

October 22-09
Discovery of having been ‘cheated on’, by the partner victim, can be a devastating, prolonged, emotional experience that, especially when children are involved, inevitably affects them. Truth and honesty go a long way in curtailing collateral damage that never had to be and, results in complicating many lives into the future.

Cheating on a partner is just representative of not using communication skills that likely were not developed in the beginning of a relationship. Love is misunderstood and overvalued when ‘communication and agreements’ are not formed and, part of everyday living. All people have a greater openness when communicated and agreed upon with love, trust and, compassion for each other. Those qualities are certainly an antidote to the need to go beyond them. Proper bonding always alleviates the need to break the once cherished connections.

Rarely are partners brought together without both of them having issues of various insecurities that need sensitive understanding. The issues come largely from a childhood that adulthood has not yet allowed growing to heal and, likely may never. A ‘cheating trauma’ can add to already unresolved issues like ‘abandonment fears’. All intelligent partners discuss their needs for love and sex even if with others and, reach
a comfortable arrangement that serves them both and, not to the detriment of either. There is no secret agenda where consciousness exists.

What prompted writing this was watching a sad story on the news of the worst form of pedophilia, rape and killing of a 7 year old girl in Georgia who had been walking home from school with her 2 siblings when a disagreement broke out and she ended up walking alone. No plan was on this killers mind for abducting anyone, just an opportunity. The ‘male part of humankind’ is filled with ‘barbarism’ still. A whole family, relatives, the town and all who followed it, are left in pain – some never ending. Cheating whether ‘pedophilia’ or not, doesn’t engender love and harmony. Heal cheating or better yet, communicate with mutual, positive workable agreements.
Arhata

October 21, 2009
Why have an ‘empty tool box’ for a brain? When it comes to ‘human brain and heart growth, sometimes referred to as ‘evolvement’, few pay any heed to any thing remotely resembling inner growth. ‘Lip service’ becomes popular in lieu of ‘truth telling’ about matters concerning this. For most, it’s easy to confess, with little conscience, to say they are happy with themselves, kids, marriage, friends, where their life is going, etc., with little truth behind it. It’s just the ‘thing to say’.

Earning money to earn more money to buy what’s going to improve their lives, ostensively, is a common driving force for life and, which all else is judged by. This way of living becomes a religion where worship takes on a rather greedy evocation of ‘lip service’ to thankfulness followed close behind by feelings of ‘entitlement’. Now, this style does have a certain charm of it’s own but, upon experiencing, loses it’s shine
when seeing how consumed this ‘religion’ fills these ‘lip servers to life’, lives!

‘Lip service’ is a form of creating distance between the truth and a lie while protecting the ‘lie’. It’s a thoughtless technique to ‘brush off’ having to look at what’s being brushed off. Spinning the truth and facts may be popular among the politicians, religious leaders, media, and, vultures of money but, is especially a breach of ethics and consciousness when among relationships. Couples who live in the ‘same ole, same ole’ doldrums of emotional infidelity, inevitably deepen the rut of ‘brushing off’ the others thoughts. ‘They’ call it communication.

Living in honesty and truth, with uncensored communication of everything, brings a relationship to a positive merger unfamiliar to those with independent agendas that serve only their selfish, greedy desires. Often in the media, their are stories of a husband or wife independently crossing some line that is either criminal or an act of infidelity without the acknowledgement that they really are both at fault. In this case, media lip service to looking at one side without seeing that ‘coupling’ is about ‘one always being in tune with the other’ and when not, things happen oblivious to the other but, they are still culpable! Lip service is any false information that avoids truth, love and compassion. Life is a magnificent opportunity to always reach for the higher answers for self love and, love of others.

October 20, 2009
“You can’t handle the truth’’! We live in a world that has walls! Walls that protect one from the noise out there providing comfort until, there’s a knock on the door! The ‘door of the closed-walled off mind’! But … “those walls are guarded by men with guns”! Famous lines by actor Jack Nicholson in the 1992 movie ‘A Few Good Men’ also with Tom Cruise.

Very few people can handle input about themselves even if it could be helpful or, ‘mind extending’ to be open to unlimited truths about anything that could improve their lives. People have a myriad of walls or excuses to block information that could well be life enhancing electing to choose instead to send out an impenetrable vibration that is only open for certain self censored communications. Truth can hurt so people isolate themselves from mental programming that may well be completely false so as to avoid the discomforts of admitting to themselves and others that they were full of ‘hooey’. Most have ‘road closed or detour’ signs invisibly written on them. Sadly, they repel people who are rich in useful information and, perhaps are coming from a great space of love, inspiration, and just plain old positive thinking.

To hear the truth one must be open and without agenda. Hurt often can be a ‘breakthrough’ and, as much as we want to avoid it, barriers only make the flow of life and love very blocked, to only let in ‘snippets’ that can be used or, nothing at all. I know an author who claims certain people shift into ‘reptile looking creatures’! Now that raises eyebrows and yet, it certainly means some people are cold and sociopathic at least. Moving to what can only be seen by those with an open pinneal gland, certain people allegedly, shape shift on a different dimension into a reptile look for real! Doubt is an important tool in life that opens the mind and heart to what normally people can’t see. Doubt opens the door to truths that are invisible while the ‘walls’ of darkness are clung to.

Truth is, not everyone is open to a lot of truths and, their space for that must be carefully respected if the continuing connection is desired. Some of these people may be friends or certainly relatives who have many other qualities to inspire cultivating. ‘Skillful means’ is always a ‘to do’ when imparting truths particularly, where there are closed walls with no doors or windows of openness.Truth leads to freedom within and an openness to love unconditionally.

October 19, 2009
Each relationship is an experience from beginning to end, in between is the ‘journey’. It’s like a new car or home, exciting at first and plagued or enhanced with a myriad of circumstances that represent the maintenance or, lack thereof that went into it. Trips need preparation or the consequences will find the cracks or, what wasn’t prepared. Each relationship has a path that in many cases has been set before it’s begun.

Strong compassion, communication, and empathy following mature self love will provide a cushioned journey regardless of what happens beyond everyday interaction. Unresolved corrections of issues and circumstances will result in a ‘rocky journey’ that will suffer from unpreparedness. Always a sensitive concern for the welfare of the other in all situations is reflective of love’s natural response.

Being ready for marriage is always an issue that needs careful consideration before entering partnerships but, even more, if it should arise, is preparation for a smooth parting of the ways with the welfare of the other in mind and, ascertaining whether the communication is sufficient so the other agrees. Every step of life’s way is an opportunity to watch and see what the outcome of each journey’s step is teaching. Growing individually and together is tantamount to giving love the impetus to always be fresh.

Getting stuck in ‘squabbling’ is like spinning tires in the mud, getting deeper and deeper into an impossible situation. A ‘life line’ will be needed to pull one out of a never ending erosion of life’s quality. That ‘life line’ is always reaching within to find the highest possible choice. Lost on the track of love particularly, love that can’t seem to find itself, needs one to stop and use one or more of the many forms of meditation to recharge ‘elusive love’. In the many Osho Books of meditations to relax, are dozens of simple methods from which to choose, many being from centuries of proven help. Love can be resurfaced by choice of a meditation that opens the heart’s channels. Life is short, the trip is long, better hurry!

October 17, 2009
Dead, left over semblances of love to feed the non discriminating hopeless (?) seeker of love that’s all but dead within, likely resulting in attracting more of the same, hoping to meet a ‘live one’. Now that much of the world has many different forms of vehicles from cars to planes to move people wherever they desire, another form of ‘roadkill love’ is rearing it’s ugly head.

People arrive as non residents of a locality/city, with no ill intent, fall in love with an unsuspecting host who does likewise and, then when an impulse moves the ‘visitor’ (?), escaping back to home base or to another city for more ‘road love kill’ while putting a band aid on the suffering emotions emanating from the previous incomplete love victim. People scrambling around looking for love in all the wrong places without first looking inside where it’s suppose to be to enable one to avoid ‘road kill love’ for the real thing.

Biological needs coupled with fears and insecurities as well as the societal pressures of
needing to make life complete to live ‘happily ever after’, cause millions to seek fulfillment of that lure without consideration that it may not be for them. Millions spend their lives fawning and scurrying around for the images of love that are both natural and, yet fueled by ‘Hollywood’ tinsel town images of romance and happiness. Then there are those who look for ‘road kill love’ from females in need of money largely repressed by male domination in society.

Others desperate for love find it in all the wrong places from pedophiliac (which is being understood as more common than we had ever imagined) to lesser sociopathic methods of porno, be it on the internet, magazines, strip clubs, other unmentionables, etc. Road kill love is usually cheating if not on a partner, on oneself. Kill love – find it in all the wrong places! For those who believe in God, it’s cheating on God otherwise, your own self and, not seeing that your potential is to be a being of love.
Arhata

October 14, 2009
Have never met a woman who wasn’t a ‘Cinderella’! It seems to be inherent in their nature. That’s possibly the reason they have so many shoes! Early in my corporate career I, with my Cinderella, moved into a Park Ave high rise in New York. Much to my disbelief she purchased 17 new pairs of shoes and, as she said, many of them were on sale!!! Only now can I see the humor in it as I write this. (She still is a Princess living on an island off of Santa Barbara, California.)

Few Cinderella’s see themselves as entitled to that status. Fewer men have the vision and imagination to appreciate the ‘inside’ of the cover. It all boils downs to ‘self love’. Every personal aspect of life is reflected on how we view ourselves and, given the gap between the higher self and, the self that most accept with little question or, willingness to look deeper at for the real ‘Cinderella’, people walk around as something that they are not.

To not look at the highest aspect of the other (while realizing to stay grounded), is taking a big chance of not ever seeing and experiencing ‘godliness through another being. Love takes unconditional involvement with someone not just ‘dependent’ on you, as is a pet or child. They have little choice and are ‘receivers’ trapped with no choice. Love between two people is the ‘God challenge’ to experience and absorb the beauty and fragrance of the divine kiss of life in it’s clearest and most enjoyable form.

Being in a consciousness of love creates an energy that can be sensed unknowingly by others and, if the circumstances are clear for that special connection, it will likely happen at the right moment and, when it’s least expected. I can humbly attest to that personally many times in moments of magical happenstance! Emotional-spiritual visioning with no expectation creates miracles far beyond the ‘naysayer-doubters’ imagination! Male or female, the clear, meditative being, attracts the energy put out.

Life and love are like a boomerang, what goes out, comes back! The slipper always fits for those in awareness and self love!

October 16, 2009
A dog will love you more than your partner will or, you loving your partner! Ever wonder why it’s ok to love your dog and yet, no one else…ya know ‘I love you’ type? It’s primarily because people aren’t mature enough to handle more than ‘one love’ at a time. What makes one mature enough?

Start with ‘self love’! People generally have an off and on affair with loving themselves if truth be known. Taking responsibility and owning who you think you are begins to fulfill that ‘self love’. Self love is more than being a ‘yes I do’ recording but, one who feels an excitement to be who they are 24/7. It’s someone who can say with honesty that they are as happy with who shows up inside every day as they could imagine. There should be no fear in being totally honest with open minded people.

Typically, married people are quaranteened from socializing ‘one on one’ with anyone of the opposite sex, barring ‘relatives’ of course. Jealousy and insecurities become prominate barriers exposing areas of self doubts that raise a myriad of feelings from anger to fear of abandonment instead of trust and a sense of not being threatened. Love embraces all emotions but, with the compassion of high consciousness and discernment.

In addition to ‘self love’, manifesting an open communication and empathy with the other serves to deepen authentic love. Less is creating a ‘flip-flopping love’ that at the slightest provocation is ready to cancel love with thoughts of running. Love reaches into each others needs creating no selfish barriers. In love, if their is a ‘leach’ it is long and accepting. Two people truly rising in love, have willingly accepted that individuality may be important but, the merger of two people creates a being that thinks and acts in openness with the other. There is both separateness and no separateness simultaneously. Love of others on any level is not of consequence but, for affirming reasons to love each other more. Learn how to love.